The Final Countdown

My friends, I bought my wedding dress. From David’s Bridal. Yes. Davids. Bridal.

I had a specific style of dress in mind to make. — if I was going to make a dress. I wanted to go with a 1960s silhouette. I’d pinned a bunch of dresses and patterns

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and general inspiration around this era well before I was officially engaged.

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I’d also gone to David’s Bridal with a friend to get a sense of the sillouette I wanted. I like this dress. I thought it was slimming, but I was going to make my own dress.

Well, two days after official engagement, my mother, the Colonel, my best friend, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. That’s why I was in Florida before China. I found out on Monday evening and flew to Florida on Tuesday morning. The prognosis is… really really terrible.  And, it’s why I have had very little to say the last month.

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So, Jordan and I decided to get married sooner rather than later. We originally were thinking August / October 2014.  But, I just can’t get married without my mom there.  So, I ordered the dress online and it arrived two days later.  I will never, ever make fun of David’s Bridal again.

In the meantime, I am accepting and encouraging all prayers aimed at my mom. Because, at this point, it will take a miracle.

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248 thoughts on “The Final Countdown

  1. I’m sorry to hear about your mother. Though your blog, I have observed a lovely strong woman, who raised a great set children. My thoughts are with you and your family during this challenging time. I am truly saddened by her diagnosis and I will keep her in my thoughts every day.

  2. My heart goes out to you. My father succumbed to the same disease 12 years ago. I’m so very sorry your family is faced with this terrible form of cancer.

  3. Oh, oh, oh!
    Sending you cyber hugs, prayers, sitting/standing with you in this…
    You are making good decisions for all the right reasons.

    I am so glad you have your dear partner through this all.

  4. Long time reader, maybe the first time commentor. When this came in my inbox I was like “What? David’s Bridal for Miss Celie?” But wow. It goes along with your inspiration really well and I’m sure you’ll be exceptionally lovely on your wonderful wedding day. Sending you love and strength vibes during what must be an inexpressibly difficult and also beautiful time for you.

  5. Your dress is beautiful … I lost my mother-in-law 10 yrs ago to pancreatic cancer. She was gone within 10 days of diagnosis. She was my best friend, confidante, and helper. So much of who I am is because of her love and guidance. I will be praying for your mother and hope that God grants you a miracle. Blessings on your new life.

  6. I’m so sorry. I lost my own mother/ Colonel/ best friend two and a half years ago. I have no comforting words of wisdom.

    So glad your mother will be there for your wedding.

  7. I am sure your dress is beautiful, especially with you as the bride. I am happy to hear that your mother will be able to celebrate your wedding with you and Jordan. Meanwhile, I am holding out for a miracle and praying for her complete healing. Hugs.

  8. Bless you both for making this a special occasion for everyone. I have just finished altering that very dress for a client…the dropped straps/sleeves are so feminine and the back is to die for. You will be gorgeous!

  9. I’m so sorry! I have vicariously loved your parents from afar, they just seem like the coolest, best possible people. I’m sending you lots of love, and so glad that you have found the perfect wedding dress.

  10. Do not worry where your dress came from. You and Jordan will have wonderful memories or your mom attending your wedding…………..something you can share with her grandchildren. How wonderful is that? God bless!

  11. I am a long time lurker. There are no words. I understand. You are a wise and kind daughter to marry your love and have your mother there. My father passed away, from pancreatic cancer, 5 weeks after my daughter was born. I feel very blessed that I was able to have that time to share. On the other hand, my uncle was a miracle pancreatic cancer patient and lived for 8 years with the disease in his 70’s. I will send all healing and loving thoughts to you and your family.

  12. I think you have really found a great guy, he’s not only making you very happy, but your family, especially your mom, so she can see you get married. I wish you and your family nothing but the best.

  13. Long time reader….so sorry about your Mom. I can’t imagine going through what you are right now. You are going to look beautiful on your wedding day. Cherish every moment :)

  14. Prayers for you, your intended and you Mom. May your day be one of joy and celebration for all of you. You no doubt made the right choices.

    You are gorgeous to begin with but in this gown, oh,my! You will shine.

  15. Although I have previously commented on your blog a few times, I mostly lurk, faithfully. I feel like I “know” you (in that bloggish sense), as well as your mom and I’m just so sad to hear of her diagnosis. A bittersweet time for you. Prayers will be said.

  16. I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. I’m keeping you and your mom (and the rest of your family) in my prayers.

  17. Ah, Sweetie. I am so sorry about your momma’s diagnosis. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry, too, that you have had to deal with this sadness at what would otherwise have been such a happy, happy time. I am certain you will be absolutely lovely in your David’s dress :-)

  18. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother, I don’t really know what to write, but am thinking of you all and wishing you the best. I hope you a wonderful, memorable wedding day. Good old David’s, I know you will look amazing in your dress.

  19. So many hugs and prayers speeding your mom’s way. Awfully glad she will get to see you get married. Thinking of you!

  20. Oh Renee I’m so sorry. What a heartbreaking turn. I wish your family the best and sending strong positive thoughts for your mom.

  21. Renee, I’m so sorry. Let me know if there’s anything at all I can do. In the meantime, my thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Big hugs.

  22. I’m so sorry about your mom. What terrible news. Your dress is lovely and you will surely be beautiful on your special day, made even more special with your mom there. Sending you positive thoughts.

  23. Thinking of you, your mother and loved ones. You’ll look lovely in whatever you wear and I’m glad your mom will be able to share that day with you.

  24. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom, I will keep her (and you!) in my thoughts and prayers. Most of us have at least a few months (or in some cases, years!) to plan a wedding and you’re doing this much faster than that, with added stress. Just remember to take care of yourself, don’t get bogged down in the stress and minutiae–your wedding will be beautiful and special, no matter how simple and/or small it has to be. And there’s nothing wrong with buying a dress from David’s, I would have bought mine there if I wasn’t a broke 20 year old who fell in love with a $3500 dress…your dress is beautiful and you’ll be stunning in it.

  25. I am so sorry about your mother’s news. I will be praying for her. The dress is gorgeous and you will be a stunning bride.

  26. Oh gosh. What terrible, terrible news. I will be thinking of you, your mom and your family. I hope you both find some joy in the wedding preparations.

  27. Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming wedding. All my best. I am so very sorry to hear about your mother. I hope for the very best outcome that is possible.

  28. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom, I’m thinking about you both, and you and your fiancee as you begin your life together. I think the dress you bought is beautiful.

  29. I’m another long time lurker. So sorry to read this news, and your mom will be in my thoughts. The dress is beautiful. My husband and I got married twice because of his father. We had planned a big wedding in April, but his father started to decline quickly due to lung cancer, so we had a little wedding at his home on three weeks notice on New Year’s Eve. It was a sad but extremely special time. I remember feeling at the time (in addition to the sadness about my FIL) that this wasn’t how it planned it to be and how hard that was. But looking back now I would not change one thing about our little wedding in my father in law’s living room.

  30. So sorry for this negative turn of events on the tail of such a beautiful one. Enjoy your wedding day knowing that you have your mother beside you. Celebrate and bask in the day fully. Save all the bad thoughts for another day, another time. Take care of yourself.

  31. Oh, Renee, I’m so sorry to hear of your Mom’s illness. I’ll wrap your family in prayers for strength and healing. Gorgeous dress; beautiful bride (and hey – you made your veil!)

  32. You’d look gorgeous in a paper bag, but that dress will be amazing! And you could always make one another time. I’m so teary hearing about your mum, I dont have a good relationship with my mum, so am in awe of people who are, and think it’s awesome you can move the wedding sooner! Memories you will all treasure. Ok, off to have a cry now! No, seriously, hoping your mum is comfortable and can enjoy the lead up to the wedding.

  33. I am so sorry to learn of your Mother’s diagnosis and send warm thoughts and prayers for you and your family in the days ahead. You will be a beautiful and radiant bride and your Mother will be so happy to share your special day.

  34. I am so sorry about your mother, Celie. I am glad you can arrange things for her to enjoy your special day. I am sending her healing thoughts.

  35. Pancreatic cancer so rarely has good outcomes. Thinking of you all.

    How lovely that you are filling her final days with such a happy event & making time to be with her.

    The dress is lovely. I invested a lot of time in my wedding dress, but not too much emotion. I took the approach that I was only going to wear it for a few hours so did not obsess about it. Almost 20 years later, very settled & content, I think “must get it dry cleaned”. I’ve spent more time & effort on tailored jackets that were worn weekly for several years.

    All the best!

  36. Thinking of you and your mum at this time and hoping for the best. That’s a beautiful dress – I’m sure you’ll look lovely and have wonderful memories of your big day.

  37. I am lurker, and have enjoyed your for a few years now. I just wanted to say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family :(

  38. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers, you got that plus much much more. Words are not coming to me right now, but needless to say reach out if you need to.
    ~Renae

  39. I’m so sorry. This must have been really hard to write. Thank you for sharing what you’re going through. I’ll keep you and your mother in my prayers.

  40. Damn, Cidell, I’m so sorry about your mama. Walking in your shoes here, too, with mine, with ovarian. Sending all the good thoughts and prayers I can muster. The dress is beautiful. Jordan is a lucky man. Love will get you through all of this, one way or another, so hold tight.

  41. I’ll add my good thoughts and prayers. It’s a beautiful dress and I hope you’ll have an awesome wedding day. Hold on tight to the good stuff.

  42. I’m so sorry and wish you and your mom and family the courage, grace and sense of humor to face the days ahead with love in your heart.

  43. I’ve been following your blog for a long time. Your news inspires me to finally comment. Your dress is beautiful. I am sending you my prayers and best wishes. I wish there were some magic words to wrap it all up nice in a bow, but there aren’t. Love is all there really is….

  44. I’m so sorry to hear that. . . .The dress will be perfect for the occasion — and I’m sending all my prayers and best wishes your way.

  45. That is a beautiful dress, and your mom will be seeing a beautiful bride come down the isle. A wonderful day to have as you build these last memories. Cherish them, as I know you will.

  46. I am so sorry. I will be hoping for your miracle. I wish I knew what else to say. Thinking of you and yours.

  47. I haven’t the power to express how sorry I am that this has happened. I will continue to send prayers and positive thoughts for your whole family. Stay strong and know many people love you.

  48. Oh dear Lord, that is such tragic, awful news to have on your heart and
    deal with at such a hopeful, happy time in your life, Can’t help but feel
    that awful sinking stone in my heart for you. I’ve lurked for awhile, and
    was and am delighted to see you found your handsome prince with so
    much joy ahead of you.

    Now the road has taken this surprising turn. Your dear Mom will be in my
    prayers, as will you for strength and faith. Prayer is so powerful, and
    miracles do still happen. Keep praying…don’t stop.

    I want to pass along information in which I have an indirect personal
    connection .. one that recently came full circle to me in very surprising
    fashion. Its a long and circuitous tale that I’d certainly like to relate so
    you’d have the full impact if you’ll email me and we can go from there
    if you choose .. it’s pretty stunning.

    I know your head is and will be filled with so many stresses, whats,
    ifs, hows, etc., and you’re bound to be torn in so many confusing and
    bittersweet directions and emotional rollercoasterss, but this information
    and the connections I’ve discovered have left me strongly feeling that
    there’s a reason .. for whatever reason .. something that was previously
    a mystery to me has now been confirmed as real and there turns out to
    be a rather surreal personal connection. Quite honestly, I feel God’s
    hand in it all,

    The essential bottom line information is the existence of a clinic in
    Freeport, Grand Bahama Island called the Immune Augmentation Therapy
    Clinic. There’s a lot of information to review here, and will take some time.

    Clinic site: http://immunemedicine.com/ (you’ll want to pause the video on
    the right so you can focus on reading the text).

    Their videos and patient stories: http://www.youtube.com/user/kevinbethelmd

    A patient’s website; she was diagnosed with cancer at 16 and given 6 months
    to live. She’s been going there for 27 years as of the time of her video. As
    her site says, they treat immune systems, not cancer.

    http://yourlifeyourchoice.org/about-iat-cancer-clinic-bahamas.htm

    Her videos: http://www.youtube.com/user/VedaBestGalati?feature=watch

    The patients’ stories literally blew me away. I certainly would never imply
    or suggest false hope to anyone, but I would be so remiss in knowing about
    this place and not passing its existence along to those in need who wish to
    know the full breadth of their options.

    My heartfelt prayers are with you all. Please don’t hesitate to email me if you’d
    like. God hold you all in the palm of His hands and mercy.

    ~Joy~

  49. Oh Cidell, I’m so sorry. Know I will be praying in earnest for your dear mama. Having a loved one with cancer is beyond difficult. Even when the prognosis is good, it still really really sucks. Praying for you too! (((HUGS)))

  50. I. HATE. Pancreatic cancer. Cancer in general, but that one in particular. You will be in my thoughts and prayers often. I am so sorry this has hit your mom…

  51. Kudos to you for hastening your significant event so your mom can be there. Grab as much of this sweet, heart-breaking time while you can. My mom was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer in the end stage not too long ago, and as I’m caring for her I’m trying to savor as many moments as I can. My heart goes out to you and your mom. This situation we find ourselves in brings all of life’s deepest joys and sorrows into sharp focus all at once, doesn’t it?

  52. Cidell, I just love your blog and how open and warm you are. I was so saddened for you upon reading this post. You will be a beautiful bride and your Mom will be proud. There are stories of miraculous healing and I will pray for this for you and your Mom.

  53. You will look so elegant and stylish in your wedding dress! I am thankful for every dollar I invested in a talented photographer with a photojournalistic style who took many, many candid photos of special moments and family members; I really cherish these photos. I am sending my positive thoughts and prayers for you and your Mom; your Mom sounds like a strong and accomplished possibility thinker. I pray she will defy the odds….

  54. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s cancer, and hope that your moving your wedding day brings all of you hope and healing.

  55. I am so sorry to hear about your mother’s news. There are no words to describe the lose of a parent. You are blessed to have a wonderful fiancé that will help you get through this time in your life. I was lucky enough to have my father walk me down the isle before he was called home. I cherish my wedding pictures and love how happy he looked enjoying our day. Ask everyone to take lots of pictures. Sending up prayers for you, your mom and your family.

  56. I’m so sorry. That’s shit. Looking forward to attending your very soon virtual wedding, and I’m happy to hear your Mum will be at your real one. I will be thinking of you xox

  57. Oh, I’m so sorry! I have a tear in my eye-I can tell you and your mom are best friends. Having lost my best friend/mom I know exactly what you’re going through. Praying for both you and your mom. So glad you’ll have your sweetheart to be by your side.

  58. I’m so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with your mom and you. Enjoy the time you have, however long that may be I wish you speedy wedding preparations and a wonderful day with your mom.

  59. Whatever happens I am sure your Mom will be there at your wedding…. (My mother also passed away in circumstances that we all would have changed if we were able: I ‘talk’ to her everyday – and though it is never the ‘same’ the closeness never goes away…) I found that I needed to be very mindful of my wonderful, new partner at the time, though, and ensure that my focus on my mother did not imply that there was any kind of hierarchy in affections… [It's so difficult being an adult !!] Our thoughts are with you, your family and your partner.

  60. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Big cyber-hugs all around.

    When my daughter was 3, we lost three family members within months of each other. When she was 3.5, we walked around some wooden boats and I told her about how uncle M used to build wooden boats and teach kids who to build them. She quipped, “People aren’t ever really gone, so long as we continue to tell stories about them, are they?”

    Your mother raised a story-teller and she will live on.

  61. I am so, so, so, so, so very sorry. I lost a good friend to pancreatic cancer (at 30!), so I know just how grim that diagnosis can be. I’ll be sending my very best thoughts your way. My friend battled it out for five years, and while I know that’s rare, I’ll be hoping for a similar miracle for your mom. I am so very thankful though that you met the right man at the right time for your mom to be able to share your wedding with you. David’s Bridal all the way.

  62. So sorry. Sending prayers, strength and good thoughts!
    My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and also very limited time. I kinda have an idea of how you feel – and then I don’t.
    Sewing your own wedding dress really is a wonderful luxury.
    But time with a loved one is priceless. That I know for a fact.

    • Oh and I forgot to add: My mother’s very grim prognosis was two weeks. She battled down cancer for almost two years.
      With cancer you just never know.
      I wish you and your family a lot of good time with each other, Cidell.

  63. I’m so sorry to hear about your your mother. My thoughts are with your mother, you and your family, and what a wonderful gift for her to see her beautiful daughter get married. Very best wishes to you all xx

  64. Another long time lurker and 2 time cancer survivor. So very, very sorry. I know you are looking for support more than advice, but want to be sure you know that Johns Hopkins Medical Center is THE world leader in treating pancreatic cancer. So if you are looking for 2nd opinions or advice, or other options, it is right in you backyard. I am hoping for that miracle for you.

  65. Holding positive thoughts for all of you. And a lovely lovely dress with lovely thoughts behind it.

    Ceci

  66. Thoughts and prayers for you, your Mom and all your family. So glad you can move up the wedding.

  67. I can hardly believe that this happened to your mom, I’m just shaking my head in disbelief. As another poster has said, I don’t have that kind of relationship with my own mother, and I’m so envious of people that do. I am so very, very sad that this beautiful, amazing woman is so ill. You will be the most beautiful bride any mother could ever wish to have, and frankly you couldn’t have picked a better dress to suit you.

  68. Hi, I’m another one who rarely comments, but wanted to add to the huge support you have here. It’s funny how you feel like you know someone from following their blog and get to care so much about them. You’ve always written about your mother with such love and tenderness. I can’t imagine my life without the support of my mother, so I dread to think what you all must be worrying about and going through at the moment. You and she must be very glad that she’s seen you so happy recently, and can be peaceful knowing you now have another person in your life to support and love you. Enjoy your wedding day and focus on the happy things – and I think you’ll look wonderful in that dress, it looks perfectly suited to the inspiration pictures. All my best wishes, Dilly.

  69. I’m so sorry to hear of your mother’s diagnosis. My mother in law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer two weeks prior to our wedding. It was a very emotionally charged ceremony for a number of reasons.

    You will look beautiful in your dress. I heartily endorse the other commenter who recommended making sure you get a great photographer. Take the opportunity to get some really great shots of you and your mom, your family and your newly joined family. That is one thing I really wish I had taken the stand to change as soon as MIL gave us the news.

    Sending many, many prayers and hopes for miracles, comfort and peace your way.

  70. Oh, Renee — I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I’m sending out white healing light and prayers for her and for you all. [Renee and the Colonel]

  71. I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. It breaks my heart. But I’m glad that you are able to modify your plans and you will be a beautiful bride.

  72. I am so terribly sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I always look forward to your posts. Keeping busy with my sewing helps me get through the rough patches of life. In the past three years my only child, 22 year old Bruce died, I had to have open-heart surgery and have dealt with breast cancer. There were times when I thought I would lose my mind. Our sewing blog community of people I have never met — you, Gertie, and Melissa Fehr really make my day with your adventures with the sewing machine. Keep sewing Miss Celie and all my best wishes for your wedding. Sometimes you just have to take it one day at a time. I will be thinking of you, take care.

  73. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry about your mom. I wish I could write something wise and meaningful, but words are not enough.

  74. OMG Renee. Cancer is a b-itch and pancreatic cancer is one of the worst of them all. My thoughts are with you, your mom and your whole family. May you all find the strength in yourself and each other to accompany her.

  75. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. I will be thinking of you and your family, and wish you a beautiful and peaceful wedding day.

  76. That we could know the plans of the Master. I will be praying for your mom. We don’t know the end of the story yet. God is a God of miracles. Praying blessings over you all.

  77. My dear friend, I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. For you and Jordan I am happy that you have the opportunity to include your mother in your wedding. That’s a blessing right there. Tell her everyday that you love her. I will pray for your mom and the family.

  78. OMG I am so sorry to hear about you your mom’s condition. I don’t pray often but I will get on my knees and send up a loud and sincere prayer for all of you.

    I am also happy that you will have your mom there to support you. I am sure she is as grateful to be with you too

    All the love.
    Monique

  79. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. It’s wonderful of you to speed up your plans. I love your blog and all your great ideas. Praying for mom and all of you. God bless.

  80. Oh, honey, I am so sorry. Everything else I could say means very little, but I will say that you have made a very brave and wise decision to get married soon. Weddings are about sharing the joy, not about having a perfect event. I hope that you have a joyful wedding that provides lots of wonderful memories. I hope your mother does as well as possible. I will be thinking about you both.

  81. Cidell, I am so sorry to hear about your mother’s diagnosis. I will keep her and your entire family in my prayers. I have no doubt that your wedding will be a blessing to her and a joy.

  82. I’m sending prayers up for your mom and your family right now, and will ask our church to do so as well. I agree with all of the others above who have said in so many ways that we are sure that it is bringing your mother so much joy to know that you’ve found love and a partner to walk through life with.

  83. I have been thinking about this post all morning, I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I will be praying for her.

  84. I’m a faithful lurker, but wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear about your mom. Positive thoughts headed your way. Your dress is lovely. It’s so good that you can change up the plan.

  85. Cidell, with grace and dignity we move forward making the best decisions we can at a given moment…particularly as we face death. In the end it’s the relationships we have that are the only real, true meaning we can define ourselves with, in life. Your man is a very lucky one indeed to be with a woman who has experienced the depth of love and commitment that you have with your momma. The one thing I wished for (after the fact) more of at my wedding, was the capacity to enjoy “the now”…I was so worried about little stuff that totally didn’t matter big picture. Perhaps that’s the bigger message — to just be in “the now”

    With lots of appreciation for the journey ahead that you face…try to remember how much caring, thoughtful, attention you have created for yourself.

  86. As you can see, the blogging community supports and loves you and your family as you adjust your plans due to your mother’s illness. My prayers go with you and your entire family as you rally to celebrate your upcoming nuptials. It will be one of your fondest memories, and you will look beautiful. God bless….

    Cynthia

  87. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. You and your fiance are right to go ahead and get married so that she can be there. Prayers for you all.

  88. sending you good wishes and all kinds of prayers, it may not be the wedding you were planning but it will be a treasured occasion for everyone. And you will be beautiful whatever you wear. love to all your family.

  89. What an awful diagnosis, but knowing gives you all the opportunity to make wedding memories together. My boyfriend’s aunt lived 4x longer than the doctors gave her. My prayers are with you all.

  90. My thoughts are with your mom and your family and you- for joy and love and celebrations and comfort. Be together as much as you can and make it all count more than ever.

  91. My prayers are with you, your mom, and your family. There may not be much you can do against the cancer itself, but, as a mom, it would be the gift of all gifts that my children would care about me as much as you care for your mother.
    I also have tremendous respect for you that you put your mom’s presence at your wedding above sewing your own dress. God be with you.

  92. Really sorry to hear this. I’m sending positive energy your mother’s way. All the best to you and the rest of your family, too.

  93. Oh Renee, I’m so very sorry to hear about this sad news. I think your decision to move the date up a really wise one, and I think the dress you picked is just beautiful. I will definitely keep her in my prayers. What’s her first name? Email me with it if you get a chance – justinsbride@hotmail.com.

  94. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I will add my thoughts and prayers for her, your family and you to the list.

  95. I’m so, so sorry to hear about your mother. She is in my thoughts, along with you and your family. Your wedding will be beautiful, and you will look stunning in that dress. I’m so glad you will be able to celebrate with your mom beside you.

  96. I speak with the sentiments of my heart. My mom is dealing with the same issue (cancer) 2x in other areas of the body. Know that your not alone, and you have been given someone special to share this walk with. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

  97. First off Congratulations on your engagement, I am not in blogland much so am just learning of your great news.

    I am very sorry to hear about your Mom, but agree with others that quick planning while stressful will be worth it to have your Mom with you on your wedding day.

    Sending peaceful and healing thoughts.

  98. Oh, I am so deeply sorry to read about this development. I will definitely keep your mom and your family in my prayers. Hang tough and if you need anything, let me know. Anything.

  99. Oh no!! That bites so badly. How could a time so good turn so bad overnight? But you’re right, forget the humongous party, the year-long preparation hell, just get in the dress and do it, with both of them present. Vive David’s!

  100. I don’t know that I can say anything that will make you feel better in this situation, but I know you will be a knock-out in that dress, RTW or not. And please spoil your mom with everything she wants and needs. Hugs to you, if only virtually.

  101. It is sad that you won’t be able to sew the wedding dress you wanted, but having your mother there is more important. I know you will look lovely no matter what you wear, and the event will be very special no matter when you have it. I am so sad to hear about your mother. Best wishes for her and for you during this difficult time.

  102. A beautiful dress and very, very sad news. Reading ‘pancreatic cancer’ took my breath away, and I may have said a bad word. Life certainly doesn’t go as expected. I’ll be sending prayers and good thoughts to you and your mom.

  103. Dear Miss Celie,

    I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s diagnosis. My mother, the most amazing and important woman in my life, was diagnosed with metastatic bile duct cancer after my husband and I got engaged. I too had always planned to make my own dress, and my mom had always told me that if I didn’t let her make it, she would help me. (my mama taught me how to sew :)) I also wore a purchased dress, and we moved up the wedding.
    Needless to say, I am so happy we did. Some of the weddings I have attended in the past have gotten a wee bit out of control. To me, a wedding is about getting in front of your family and loved ones and saying ‘I love this person, and I want to be with them for the rest of my life.’ The fact that my mother was physically there, supporting us in our decision, and giving us mad love that day is something I will be forever grateful for.

    Please know that I am sending you and your mama love, prayers, good thoughts and good vibes. Your wedding will be beautiful and awesome.

    Although we have never met, if there is anything I can do to help, please feel free to contact me.

  104. Cidell, you will look lovely in your dress. I hope you have a beautiful wedding. Make it a day full of memories.
    So sorry about your mom. I shall pray for you and your mom.
    Take care, my dear.

    Helen

  105. Very sorry to hear about your Mom. My daughter told me that we tend to “pray too small”. So, I’m going to pray for your mother and I know you will too.

  106. She looked wonderful at your Grandmother’s birthday party, but it’s such a silent killer. My thoughts are with you. It’s a lovely dress and you will be a beautiful bride.

  107. So, so sorry to hear about your mother–I’ll be thinking of you. It’s a beautiful dress and most importantly you’ll be able to share it with her.

  108. Prayers for you and your mom. You will be a beautiful bride and make some memories that will last a lifetime. Treasure the time you can share. She must be so proud of you, too.

  109. Long time reader, first time poster. I had to say something….but there are no words.
    The words to your song are gone into the wind right now…but I will hum it for you until the words return, however long that might be.

    Blessings to you and yours.

  110. Renee, I am praying for your Mom, you and your family. Mom’s are special people in our lives, our best friends for life. Stay strong.

  111. I’m sorry to hear about your mother and you have my thoughts and prayers for her recovery. Cancer is an ugly disease.

  112. You know, I just found your blog a week ago. I read one post and signed up immediately because it was (and you are) so cool. I’m really sorry about your mom. I am praying for you, your family and your intended. Moms are the best. I get to spend a lot of time with my Mom now and I just love to hear her laugh. Expect and pray for recovery!

  113. You need your Mum at the wedding and having lost my mother this year, you need your Mum. Treasure the time you have and I wish you a long and happy life together.

  114. Prayers for that miracle for your Mom. Jordan seems special, willing to change wedding plans for an important reason. I had noticed the silence and wondered – now we know. So sorry.

  115. My dad survived pancreatic cancer 3 years ago, he is currently going through a bit of a relapse again right now. I completely know what you’re going through, the anger, frustration, anxiety and pain. I’m sending positive energy and love to your mom and you.

  116. Praying your mother has lots of time left with your family. What a special gift you all are giving her to push the wedding forward. My son in laws grandmother, whom was in her mid 70’s when diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 3 years ago is still going strong. They didn’t give her much hope because of her advanced age. Hope your mothers has many more years with you.

  117. That dress is beautiful. The details don’t matter. As long as your loved ones are with you the wedding will be perfect.

  118. My sincere apologies for my faux pas in my earlier comment. I re-read your post, and instead of being sorry to hear about your mother’s passing, I wish her all the best in a strong recovery. My thoughts to you and yours.

  119. I am saddened to hear of your mom’s diagnosis. My prayers are with you and your family. I hope that you and your mom can enjoy planning your wedding together. This is a very special time for a mother and daughter. Enjoy every precious moment with your mom. It is good that you have Jordan for support during this difficult time.

  120. The dress is beautiful. You will be beautiful. Your mom will be there and she will be beautiful. All my prayers today are for you, your mother, and your family.

  121. I will definitely be keeping your mom in my prayers, as well as putting in a few prayers for you and Jordan. How sweet you are to advance your wedding plans – you’re good people! And that IS a beautiful dress, btw!

  122. I am so very sorry to hear such sad news about you Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. What a beautiful daughter that moves “Heaven and Earth” to ensure that her Mom is with her at her wedding, I’m praying that everything works out well and that miracle happens.

  123. I have followed your blog for years and it has always been so obvious that you dearly love your mom. I am so sad to read about her diagnosis. You and your family are in my prayers. I am positive also that you will look absolutely beautiful on your wedding day regardless of where your dress came from! –Lisa

  124. I’m so very sorry to hear about your mom’s diagnosis, but I am happy for her that she has a daughter who loves her dearly. You will be a beautiful bride, and you will be so happy to have the extra time to spend with your mom. We will keep her and your family in our prayers.

  125. She will definitely be in my prayers. I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m sure its hard to take it all in. I’m so sad for you. Lots of love and prayers your way!

  126. So sorry about the sad news about your mother. I wish all of you lots of strength. The dress…even a wedding dress is just a dress. The time you spend with your mother really matters and will sustain you in the years ahead.

    Let people help you.

  127. There’s nothing I can say that hasn’t been already said. I’m sending you love and strength for this tough time. The dress is lovely and you will be beautiful in it.

  128. I am so sorry to hear this, and will keep your mother in my prayers. You are going to look gorgeous no matter what you wear, and having your mother there is way more important than having a me-made dress.

  129. The time with your mom is more important than any dress. We have dealt with similar cancers with friends and family and you are right to give your mom the gift of time. The dress you picked at David’s is very you – and very immediate. Have faith in your decision and move forward. My thoughts and prayers are with your mom.

  130. Oh, Miss Celie, words cannot express how sorry I am that you are facing saying goodbye to your dear mother. It will be the hardest thing you will every have to do, I promise. Please use your time with her to say all the things that need to be said. Please take care of yourself at this difficult time as well. You will get through this but there are so many tears to be shed…You will be the most beautiful bride and your mother can carry that image of you always. Blessings to you and your family.

  131. I am very, very sorry to hear of this awful news. My best and most sincere wishes for strength and health for you and your family. I know you will be a beautiful bride even if you were to wear a paper bag and sackcloth, and your Mother being there to share in that day is all that matters.

  132. Sorry to hear about your mom. I will be praying for God’s healing for her, and may He strengthen you and your family as you go through this process.

    About your dress – it’s pretty and I’m sure you will look fabulous in it. I’m usually a David’s Bridal snob but honestly they have some nice dresses and the cost is good especially when you consider that they will probably not be worn again.

  133. this makes me so sad; my heart goes out to you and your family. prayers and hugs to you. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I can make anything you want and could help in any way, even from afar

  134. I’m so sorry about your Mom. Cancer truly sucks.

    Your dress is fantastic! And you will look fabulous!

  135. Oh Miss Celie! I’m so sorry. The dress is beautiful but would be anyway because you will be wearing it.

  136. I am SOO SORRY to hear about your Mom. That’s so hard, especially since you are still so young to lose her. I lost my Mom two years ago to post polio. Hopefully the will of her spirit will allow her to make it to your wedding. Love and support from The South.

  137. then, miss celie, you truly are ready to get married. you already understand What Matters and What’s Gravy. your mother should be proud of that. i’m so sorry and wish you all well.

  138. U definitely have my prayers and even better, I believe in the power of prayer. You do, too, so this is good. When are you and your darling man getting married now?

  139. I am so sorry to hear your news. Know that you are being sent positive energy from Tucson, AZ :)

  140. I am so sorry you to hear about your mother so soon after hearing the good news of you being engaged. You and your family are in my prayers.

  141. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am thinking of you in this hard time and hope for the best. What a happy thing that you can move your big day so your mother can celebrate in that joy all the sooner.

  142. My mother and father got married in a small hospital chapel, my mom in a borrowed dress and my dad in an illfitting suit, because my grandfather was very, very sick and waiting longer would have meant that he would not have been there. Even though there was no big dress, no fancy dinner (friends cooked everything, including the apple pie wedding cake which was tiered by using coffeecups) both my parents and my grandmother remember it as a beautiful, wonderful day. Best of luck to you, your mother and your fiance.

  143. There aren’t the right words, although many of us are trying to find them.

    Weddings are a day, a very special day, but all the planning in the world won’t make a difference in the marriage. I think moving up the date and buying a dress shows your priorities are in the right place.

    Positive thoughts for your mom and yourself. It’s hard on the families too.

  144. My thoughts are with you at this time. Words fail me but know you and your family, especially your mom are in my thoughts. Take care xxx

  145. I hope you can all enjoy your wedding day with your mum and family around you. You could wear a feed sack and still look fabulous, but that dress is beautiful and I am sure the veil you made will look wonderful with it.
    Thinking of you all, and my best wishes to your mother.

  146. I have no doubt things happen for a reason, and I am so glad your mum has been able to see you so happy with Jordan and now such a beautiful bride. I have no doubt this happiness will help her through whatever treatment she now has to face. Best wishes to you both in your future life together.

  147. Oh, Renae… I am so sorry to hear this. You definitely made the right decision to move forward with the wedding, purchased dress and all. Hugs to you and yours.

  148. Wow. No question, gather flowers by the armful and dance your heart out in the sunshine while the storm clouds gather. Warmest hugs.

  149. Sending prayers to you and your family. Spend as much time as you can with your mom. I was able to do that with my mom. Ask all the questions you want to know the answer to now.

  150. I’ve been a reader for a while, live in Baltimore, think about sewing a lot more than I actually do sew, but love reading your blog for inspiration. I am so sorry to hear about your mother’s diagnosis. I lost my mom two years ago, and not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. Saying a prayer for yours.

  151. I’m a lurker, coming out of the woodwork to say that I will pray for your mom, and you, and everyone affected by this diagnosis. I am so, so sorry.

    Also: that was my wedding dress as well (and I too was surprised by my decision), and just seeing the picture brings me floods of happy memories and great peace. So I will pray that your marriage is a source of strength and peace and joy even in such a terrible time.

  152. I’ll be saying prayers for your mother. I have an aunt experiencing almost the same thing and it really brings to home how precious every moment is with our loved ones. Take care!

  153. You don’t know me but I’ve been following your blog for a few years and am crushed to hear about your mother – I can only imagine. Many hugs. The dress is beautiful and a great solution to getting married sooner. I’ll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  154. I found my way back to your blog after time away from sewing and blogs. Congratulations on your beautiful wedding.

    I’m so sorry to read that your mother has been diagnosed with this disease. I lost my dear mother 4 years ago to Pancreatic Cancer. Sending hugs & prayers to you and your family. xoxoxoxo

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